Last night I was feeling sorry for myself.
Then I figured it all out... AGAIN.
Kara is not so smooth with the guys. Why? Kara is attractive and smart and nice.
I had another one of my stoned revelations, as I was laying in bed thinking about this.
Here is goes:
• Guys (people) like it when you make them feel like they are awesome
• I do not make most guys feel like they are awesome
• ... because they are NOT THAT AWESOME!
• therefore, it is THEIR fault, not mine, this whole time!
On a side note, I'd like to quote Carla Carpio as saying "I feel like I can't fuck someone and just leave it at that without the dude getting all freaked out because he thinks I'm going to want to get married right after." Seriously. Once bitten, twice shy, I guess... but come on now. I think fear of falsely giving that impression is also part of the reason why I never go out of my way with the "you are awesome" vibes.
That's it for this installment of the naïve Kara's latest revelations.
You're really damned if you do and damned if you don't, but I'd rather be damned for doing it, a lot.
jeremy [email] said at 1:29 PM 06-01-2004: You could always try and slip it into conversation early on that in general you are not interested in a relationship with anyone. Or that you're just interested in fucking. Either way i suppose. Most guys would get the drift. Honesty is refreshing.
josh [email] said at 1:31 PM 06-01-2004: I see where Carla is coming from, but I do think most people have probably had the experience of sexing someone up and then having them be all clingy.
Generally, the possible complications of this type of thing makes me only want to have sex with someone I could see myself dating.
carla [email] said at 2:27 PM 06-01-2004: see, it's those girls who have ruined it for the ladies who just want to have some fun.
Course I'd be lying if I said that sleeping with someone and then wanting something more and not getting it has never happened before, because it has. I'm just entirely too aloof about the whole thing.
josh [email] said at 3:13 PM 06-01-2004: Well I meant guys and girls. I have slept with girls who I liked a lot but they didn't really want to date me, as well.
kara [email] said at 2:23 PM 06-01-2004: Listen y'all... sometimes I might end up wanting to date someone, but I can't know that for sure right off the bat, ya know?
cecil [email] said at 2:29 PM 06-02-2004: I don't understand. Why do you care about being smooth with guys you don't think are awesome?
I only have sex with girls who I think are awesome. (i.e. not very often) So when that happens I want to do it a lot and often. This could be seen as clingy but really it's just lust. Just seems natural to me. If I can blow if off casually that means it wasn't that great.
amy [email] said at 3:50 AM 06-21-2004: cecil you should check the trading post, oops, i mean the dating service. we think you are awesome and we can't wait to cling to your hot sweaty ...
brandon [email] said at 9:36 AM 06-21-2004: You just have to read the guy. Some guys see detachment as a challenge.
I can respect a woman who fucks and runs. I think it's an excellent way of throwing some pussy around and getting the dick you need with out the attached and quivering mass of neurosiseseses.
brandon [email] said at 11:02 AM 06-21-2004: You're boring, stupid and banal. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" Go fuck yourself. Your presence here takes away from the site. I'm not kidding.
josh [email] said at 11:04 AM 06-21-2004: As one of the founders of Killoggs, I beseech you: Please stop reading this site. Or, for god's sake, at least stop responding.
