"I want you to just let a wave of intolerance wash over you. I want you to let a wave of hatred wash over you." - Randall Terry, Founder of Operation Rescue
I just found out that my ex that I lived with for three years and was at one point engaged to is getting married in a few months. She called me and made sure I wasn't at work when she told me, which was nice of her. I was the first one she told, so she could hear it from me and in case I got upset. Which I'm not, but it's still sort of... melancholy. Like that part of my life is now so far away...
I guess it doesn't help that I'm missing someone else who is currently far away, and that my personal/love life is so disjointed lately.
I don't know. Life is a strange place. I'm not sure I have a handle on it yet, but I think I'm slowly getting more accustomed to it.
rick [email] said at 8:43 PM 03-29-2004: The same thing happened to me about two years ago. It was upsetting even though we had separated over a year and a half prior.
marcia [email] said at 8:46 PM 03-29-2004: Oddly, although vague, that is one of the most personal things I have ever read from you on killoggs....though an ex getting married would be kind of weird to have to deal with. I have yet to deal with an ex getting married...well, except my husband, who just got engaged, but I'm not sure if that really counts.
Pinky said at 12:37 AM 03-31-2004: That's quite considerate. I heard my news from a third party, and it did upset me. For the sake of honesty, and respect for a past relationship, I'd rather have heard it from my ex.
brandon [email] said at 9:53 PM 03-29-2004: Well, I was going to say something rude to you about being a cunt or something. But out of deference to Mr. S., I won't. Here, I'll offer this: behind every bitter woman lies a man's scorn.
Josh, if you need comforting, I've got a warm bed, a pair of glad hands, and an insatiable hunger for frisson which await you in the not-so-cold-recently midwest.
Leave off updating the site and chasing that which is cheap and plenty. Come, wile away you pain in the virile arms of one who knows no shame in embracing.
And never, ever again post your true feelings on Killoggs.
Woody said at 11:52 PM 03-29-2004: I don't have to worry about this as the women I have been with are now spoiled for ever. It's tough being this good.
Bendependent [email] said at 3:20 AM 03-30-2004: thanks for sharing yourself with us, josh.
nah, I can't be a dick here...
I never knew you were engaged to her. That's weird, man. How come I never got a phone call?
yeah. I can't say that it's really a shocking thing to me that she's getting married. I figured it would happen sooner or later. It's actually really cool that she called to tell you (as sad or awkward as that must have been).
It IS weird to me that her and another lady friend that I once made eyes at are now married (or engaged). This immediately only leads me to imagine it won't be too long before I get that beautifully sad call from Angele.
And I really don't know how I'll feel about that...
I guess it's going to depend on where I am in my life when it happens. Hopefully I will find myself in love again between now and then. That would soften the the blow and allow me to be able to look at it like I can look at this. I'm sure it will be a sad thing though in a lot of ways no matter what my mindframe and situation will be. It's just hard to spend so much time building your dreams around someone for so long and then having to give them all up cold and start over. I'm sure I'll feel weird cos I'll feel like I wasn't good enough (or ready enough) for her somehow then - but now someone else is? And like you said, that that part of your life seems so far away.
It is. And that's sad in a lot of ways.
But also wonderful.
And the best thing in the world.
And you can look at what you've done with yourself since then and how you've grown as a person since it all went down, and now you can just be happy for her in doing the same.
We got a lotta living to do yet, mister. We'll look back to now and think "Why the fuck was I thinking about settling down then?" And we'll be in love with pretty ladies again one day. It's just a matter of time.
I mean, if I can fall in love with the idea of owning a pen light one day, and with a retarded Bee Gee's song the next - I can only imagine what it will be like the next time a lady comes along and knocks my pirate hat off...
She better invite us to her wedding. We'll drink our asses off and sing her a song of times long gone and send her on her way...
josh [email] said at 8:52 AM 03-30-2004: Yeah, I'm definitely happy for her. I've never met the guy, but she has nothing but good stuff to say about him - he seems to be a great guy, which is very good. After we broke up she dated a long list of LOSERS who made me angry because she would always be upset with them and their bullshit. They didn't always treat her so good... This guy seems like a really good guy, and that's what I want for her - to be with someone who i sgood to her.
It's really more just... weird. I guess you've encountered this before, but this is my first ex that is gonna be married (that I know about). And it's just strange how different my life is now than three years ago... Not in a bad way, just... a way.
boudet [email] said at 9:27 AM 03-30-2004: My ex is engaged too, man. Welcome to the club. It happened almost a year ago, but it was definitely out of left field. Very strange. I wouldn't trade my position now for anything, though. I wasn't real happy at the time, but now I'm glad for her. Fuck it, I'm loving life now...
josh [email] said at 9:33 AM 03-30-2004: That's weird! That doesn't seem like very long after you broke up... But I agree, I am enjoying life very much.
boudet [email] said at 9:41 AM 03-30-2004: She was engaged about 2 months after we broke up...how bout them shitass apples. Like I said VERY STRANGE. But I've defintely put that shit behind me.
kara [email] said at 9:32 AM 03-30-2004: My ex says he's married but didn't have a ceremony and I don't think he really is.
It is weird but doesn't bother me too much.
brandon [email] said at 10:55 AM 03-30-2004: My exes that have had babies turned into total blimps. You know what happens when you poke a blimp? Air comes out. Flatulent chicks are a huge turn-off, so those exes don't bother me none.
brandon [email] said at 2:09 PM 03-30-2004: The best thing about flatulent exes with children is that you can hire some gay, homeless man to molest her kids for ultimate retribution.
What's the comeback for that? None, if you can set that up, you've won; they've lost. You are the champion of the break-up.
ed [email] said at 8:37 PM 03-30-2004: Unless they get you arrested, and you get molested in prison so often that your sphincter won't allow flatulence to even build up. That might be worse.
brandonr said at 1:00 AM 03-31-2004: I'm quite confident that even as we speak gay, catholic, homosexual agents of molestation continue to molest away on the current crop of our national youth. While traceable themselves, they leave behind no evidence that implicates their handlers. Thus, they are unstoppable.
brandon [email] said at 12:56 PM 03-30-2004: I agree. And I don't even know that chick.
Back in the days that followed, I was slapping this married chick and she was like: "Honey, don't be so sad. 1) You ain't the marrying type and 2) marriage is merely control"
Marriage is 1) for shit and 2) not compatible with human happiness 3) has been shown in all sorts of studies not to contribute to human happiness over the long-run.
kevin [email] said at 1:54 PM 03-30-2004: most interesting for me has been hanging out with an ex-gf and her child from her subsequent boyfriend. and then having the kid know me and stuff as like an uncle kinda human... pretty neat.
Pinky said at 3:21 PM 03-30-2004: "Shallow loves and shallow sorrows live on, but the loves and sorrows that are great are destroyed by their own plentitude." -Oscar Wilde I wonder if this is really true...if marriage is between two people who are compatible to cohabitate, while the real passion is between the ones who can't stay together.
milky [email] said at 4:08 PM 03-30-2004: Cohabitation before marriage...statistics show the marriages don't work.
Why?
Cause you can just up and get the fuck out, I think.
brandon [email] said at 4:17 PM 03-30-2004: Given how treacherous, back-handed, sneaking, lying, manipulative, neurotic, and all together no good the women in my life have been up until this point, I'd sooner marry a rattlesnake than I would a woman.
However, even knowing the nature of rattlesnakes, I would have to live with a particular rattlesnake for a while before I would be willing to commit.
Co-habitation has saved all of us at one time or another from what would have been extremely lousy marriages/lives. Why knock it?
milky [email] said at 4:44 PM 03-30-2004: How about avoiding snakes in general? There's nothing wrong with a bat or a feral animal (you can shock the latter or hit them with a stick).
ed [email] said at 7:16 AM 03-31-2004: Co-habitation has saved all of us at one time or another from what would have been extremely lousy marriages/lives.
It is this to which I was replying.
Although I definitely am a lesbian trapped in a man's body.
Woody said at 1:34 AM 03-31-2004: And what sort of people is that? Just curious. I co-habited when I realized we would probably get married. I am not getting a divorce, at least for the next 16 years, simply because we have children. I've never had to consider it, but it's a commitment we've made.
zack [email] said at 8:44 PM 03-30-2004: It's always weird when people move on, even if you've long since moved on.. I know your weird existential sense of hollow...
byron [email] said at 9:22 PM 03-30-2004: Josh
Please allow the former "King of Heartbreak" to help you see through the thick fog that makes up the words and intentions of the ex-girlfriend. It doesn't matter how much time passes, exes need to know they still have the power to destroy you. You must fight back with your own "happiness" and "future plans." Be rational. If you would have called her with that mess, she would be talking on her on weblog about how this crazy ex-boyfriend who called her with this rude, useless information. So, sit back, relax, put on some Too Short, and forget that hoe!
andrew [email] said at 9:28 PM 03-30-2004: even though the streets are BUMPIN'....
wish i knew what to tell you josh, but i don't. just one of those things.
GOLLUM [ url ] said at 1:23 PM 03-31-2004: My ex called me 6 months ago and told me he was getting married to a girl with a cat named "PRRRECIOUSSSSS".
ew!? so, fucken... prrrrecious...
