i got an email from my ex-fiance, apologizing for the way he summarily dumped me 2 years ago. While i appreciate the email, I cant fathom why he would email me now--i mean, its been two freaking years--his people dont speak to my people, we dont even live in the same state, etc so its not like we keep having to avoid each other in the dairy aisle at the grocery store
oddly the effect of the email was to rip the wounds back open again since i had achieved quasi-success by investing heavily in some of the nations finest pharmaceutical products to forget about it all.
James said at 9:49 PM 08-24-2001: If I may ask, why would a post from your ex-fiance be strange? Haven't you ever contacted an old flame out of the blue? I couldn't understand NOT communicating with an x
jeni [email] said at 3:03 PM 08-25-2001: presuming that "contacting an old flame out of the blue" excludes drunken phone calls at 3 am, yes..i have maintained cordial communication with Xs.
jeni [email] said at 4:34 PM 08-26-2001: oops sorry, i guess i worded that poorly. drunken phone calls in the middle of the night were not exchanged in the above-mentioned relationship. i've just been the recipient of some in the past, courtesy of a different x
jeni [email] said at 1:15 AM 08-28-2001: posting about it on killoggs? i dunno, this is the first time i've ever posted anything of such a deeply personal nature anywhere. i tend to stick to impersonal topics like rotting animals (::refrains from making a cheap joke at Xs expense::) in public and i had many second thoughts before and after hitting Post, but somehow writing about this incident here helped me get very objective about the whole thing much more quickly than i ever could have in the past... sort of like by broadcasting it publically it took it out of this painful personal realm it was in and robbed it of its potency.
i swear this will not lead to me making appearances on the montel williams show this time next year.
evan said at 4:25 PM 08-27-2001: i went out with a girl for around 2 and a half years, and it took a while after we broke up to be able to hang out again, but shes on of my top 5 best friends, so its not impossible...
mary said at 3:28 AM 08-26-2001: Yeah, I have a bunch of ex-boyfriends who are still pals. I think it depends on the people, and why they broke up, and how stable they are otherwise.
kiche [email] said at 12:03 AM 08-26-2001: my last girlfriend dumped me and then converted to islam. she wore the full dress with a covered head but no veil. craig's theory is that she did this to freak me out. if that was the case, then it worked.
James said at 5:27 PM 08-26-2001: Cha-ching**** Thirty dollars to play russian roulette.
Don't worry, Kicke. www.getmarriednow.com will send you a wife.
Brandon said at 1:02 AM 08-28-2001: You think? I think it's pretty habitual and standard for most of us. We're all strangers to begin with and fading back into that role seems pretty natural.
I guess there is also the problem of how you define intimate, too. I mean I some cases, for some people, I guess defining intimate as sleeping with someone would pretty much slip intimacy into the same category of shaking hands, in some cases, for some people that is.
Then there's always the proposition that intimacy is something we make up to shield us - woman especially - that something is on top of them drilling away inside them: intimacy as an apparatus to cloak the fact that most people hate the people they're with anyway, ensconsing hidden agenda's deep within their motivations.
For me intimacy is a bald faced lie, and it surprises me how easily you slip into such terms, Mary, communing with the lower humans in terms they can understand, I guess.
Oh well, I just find it contagiously funny, that someone as adverse to intimacy - however it's defined - should comment at all concerning the subject.
